Distant Friend Dilemma

 As the year passes, I keep thinking this one thing to myself. I met tons of new people, got to know many, and developed a really tight bond with a few. It is only natural to think about the people you lost and the feelings and moments you always craved for yet were not fortunate enough to witness.

BUT The thing which bothers me the most is that I did not LOSE any friend, we slowly drifted apart. Time drove us away from each other as we kept going forward. The disturbing thing is that we got so busy in life that we forgot about the beautiful bond we had. And after a long time from now, on one partially sunny and oddly nostalgic afternoon, we would be sitting alone thinking to ourselves

"Man I had that really nice friend. I loved him so much. I wonder why did we stop talking. What happened? Did I do something wrong or were we just not compatible. But I really did like him and I still do. Does he feel the same way about me? Probably not. We haven't talked in years. There were many moments when I could have messaged him, asked for advice, or talked about life in general but I didn't. Should I text him? It would probably be awkward as we don't really know each other. Plus we don't have anything to talk about now. Does he feel the same way about me? I don't know. I hope he still remembers me."

At this moment you would be left with only two options:

a) Message him. Talk your heart out and try to rebuild the same bond or an even better one

b) Just accept that you had your time, it was beautiful and you have a sweet memory of them to keep on living with

Both the options are normal or should I say natural but most of us choose the second one. It seems better not to ruin a beautiful memory with a touch of despair because what if you try and try hard but it does not work. Now you don't even have that memory, all you are left with is regret. But on the contrary, it is horrendous and heart-wrenching that you only have A MEMORY of that person who could have been all yours. If, just if you had not got yourself caught up in the useless and meaningless hurries of life, the outcome would have been different. But one thing is for sure, if not this, it would have been some other problem that would be bothering you. I guess this is what life actually is. If you cling onto one thing you surely have to let go of another. Life's hard but you can always enjoy what you have, work hard to get what you want and in the meantime love the people you love to the fullest and not shy away from telling them that you love them and you've got their back no matter what.